By Brad Browning
From The Ex Factor Guide
Don’t let the man you love slip out of your life forever. Use these techniques to compel your ex to fall back in love with you again… for good!
How to Make Your Ex Obsess Over You
So you want to make your ex obsess over you. Well, you’re in luck because I’m going to reveal 3 sneaky mind tricks that can help make that a reality NOW.
Today, I’m going to skip the introduction and just go straight into it…
The first psychological tactic that you must employ if you want your ex back is what I call the recovery period.
If you’ve just broken up with your ex, then you’re probably experiencing a ton of different emotions, like sadness, anger, confusion and frustration…
…and at this stage, all you probably want to do is talk to your ex.
You might even be tempted to beg or to plead for him to come back.
But if you’re at all familiar with my videos or read my Ex Factor Guide program, then you already know that begging and pleading is only going to make him less attracted to you.
So if your goal is to make your ex obsess over you again, then acting desperate and emotional is just going to have the opposite effect.
So the first step is to recover from the heartache and the depression – then you can go from there…
Once your ex sees that you’re handling the break-up maturely and calmly, then he’s going to be more open to communicating with you in the future.
So there’s a few tips and tricks that can help you go through this recovery phase, and one of the best tips that I can give you is to employ the no-contact strategy.
I’ve covered this extensively in my other videos which go into further detail about this, but it’s basically a tactic that acts as a one-two punch.
First, it helps you get over your ex and the emotional state after the breakup as quickly as possible.
Second, it also allows your ex’s emotions to settle down a little bit as well.
You won’t be able to attract your ex back into your life, let alone make them obsess over you…
…unless you do some form of the no-contact strategy as soon as you can.
Now that’s not to say that this technique is the only answer. I mean, there’s a myriad of ways in which you can help yourself recover from the break-up.
But in most cases, my clients have found that this is the most EFFECTIVE way to get through that initial stage of grief without making things worse.
The Recovery Phase Tactic
#1. Hang out with your friends
Now, this is not going to directly help you get your ex back, but it is going to help you deal with the emotions that you’re currently experiencing.
Your friends are not only going to lend an ear, but also going to allow you to forget about your ex.
Better yet, if your ex sees that you’re having a lot of fun with your friends on social media, he’ll get the impression that you’re handling the post-breakup period just fine.
And sometimes, this on its own is actually enough to make him feel enough regret over the breakup that he’ll actually want to get back together with you…
…now this is rare, but it definitely does happen.
So before you feel like throwing in the towel and giving up, drop your best friend a line. You won’t regret it.
#2. Join a club or a sport
Like I just said, keeping your mind occupied during the breakup is going to really help you immensely.
A great way to keep yourself distracted is to join a club, a sports group, class, and any kind of social event or gathering that you might be interested in.
I know this can be extremely difficult to do when all you really want to do is wallow in your sorrows at home…
…but I promise you, taking the first step to recovery is often the hardest part.
Once you work up the strength to go out there and to meet other people, it’s only going to get easier and easier.
And once again, this is good because your ex will see that you’re meeting and attracting more people into your life.
In the back of his mind, he’s going to wonder why he let go of you in the first place.
#3. Focus on a hobby or a passion
If you want to get over your breakup, sometimes it’s enough to pick up a new hobby or a new passion that you’ve always wanted to try.
Maybe there’s something out there that you’ve been interested in, but just never had the time or motivation…
…so NOW is the perfect time to go ahead and try it!
Don’t limit yourself to just recreational activities. You can also focus your energy on other avenues, like work or school.
Regardless of whether you do get your ex back or not, you’re going to thank yourself for doing this kind of stuff – and this is just a handful of ways that you can recover from a tough breakup.
Now before I continue, you might think it’s easy to dismiss my recovery phase tactic…
I know that as someone who’s desperate to get their ex back, it can be really difficult to listen to advice that doesn’t really seem to help solve the problem…
…but I promise you, recovering from the break-up is only going to make my next strategy (which I’m about to talk about) much easier to employ.
And with that, let’s move on to the next strategy…
The Psychological Process
The Rekindling Phase
Your main goal here is just to establish a connection with your ex in a fun and attractive way.
So let’s think about where you’re at right now…
Let’s say you’ve stuck to the no-contact strategy and haven’t called or sent your ex any messages.
Now comes the hard part, which is reaching out to your ex – this is where most of my clients have the most difficulty.
If your ex dumped you, then it’s NOT likely that he’ll to want to talk (let alone see you) without a really good reason.
Chances are he’s going to suspect that any attempt to communicate is basically just a sign that you miss your ex and want him back.
So that’s exactly what you DON’T want to happen.
But how do you reach out to your ex without looking desperate or scaring him off?
More importantly, how do you give him the impression that you’re not interested in getting back together?
(Whether or not this is actually true, it’s still a good idea that he doesn’t perceive that as your intention at this point in time.)
Now in my ex-factor program, I outline a number of effective ways that you can achieve this – my personal favorite is what I call the Help Date Tactic.
What you need to do is to basically contact your ex, and arrange a meeting.
The key to making this work is to make it seem like the only reason you want to meet is to ask your ex for some advice.
For example, let’s say you need help remodeling your kitchen and your ex is great at interior design. So, you can text him something like this:
“Hey, hope all’s going well with you. I’m in the process of remodeling my kitchen and need some help. I know you’re good with this kind of stuff, just wondering if we could grab a quick coffee and talk about it.”
And that’s it.
By giving your ex a very logical and believable reason, he’s not going to feel threatened by the prospect of meeting up with you.
But don’t forget that if your ex gets the impression that you’re trying to get him back, he’s going to be extremely hesitant to see you.
Now again, this is just one of the ways that you can set up a meeting with your ex.
If you’re stumped and you can’t figure out a believable way to come up with an excuse to meet up with your ex…
…then you should check out this free full-length video presentation now.
Now, let’s get into some sneaky psychological tactics that will force your ex to obsess over you again.
So let’s move on to the final strategic step…
The Retraction Phase
This is arguably the most important step because it’s the part where you rebuild your ex’s feelings of attraction for you.
If you do it right, you’ll get to the point where your ex will start to get obsessed with you again and want you back in his life.
There are a bunch of ways to do this, and I’ll cover some of them here. But if you want to learn my entire method, you can check out my video now.
Ok, so the first technique to drive your ex wild with desire is by flirting with him like crazy.
This is a tactic that’s often forgotten about when my clients try and get their ex back.
They lose sight of the fundamental reason why their ex broke up with them in the first place. It’s because the emotional and the physical attraction gradually faded until they disappeared over time.
So in order to make your ex desperate to get you back, you need to rebuild that spark of attraction between you two.
And one of the best ways to do this is by flirting right.
So, how do you go about this?
I’m just going to quickly go over some of the basic tactics that are proven to work. But honestly, you know your ex best.
You know what makes him tick. You know his turn-ons and what turns him off.
So keep that in mind before you meet up with your ex.
Flirting Tactic #1. Make Eye Contact
There’s nothing more unattractive than talking to a person who can’t look you in the eye.
Remember, your ex broke up with you because he didn’t feel that emotional connection anymore and the sparks of attraction faded.
That’s why you need to prove to him that the connection that you once shared is still there.
The flames of passion might have died down, but the embers of affection are still there, glowing underneath the ashes.
All you need to do is get the spark back and REIGNITE those flames once again.
Thus, making solid eye contact with your ex is a really good way to get things going and re-establish that connection with him.
Flirting Tactic #2. Use the Power of Touch
Flirting just isn’t complete without some kind of playful physical contact.
Touching is crucial when it comes to creating romance, attraction and sexual desire…
So if there was one flirting tip you need to remember, it would be to touch your ex as much as possible without coming across as creepy.
So the next time you’re with him, don’t be afraid to playfully jab your ex in the arm, or touch his hand, or fix his hair.
If you can pull this off without making him feel uncomfortable, he’ll get used to the idea of being physically intimate with you again.
For now, take baby steps and keep it SUBTLE – he’ll come around soon enough.
Flirting Tactic #3. Smile!
When you’re hanging out with your ex, one of your main goals is to simply to have FUN.
He’s not going to obsess over you or feel overwhelmed with desire if you come across as angry, dramatic or desperate in some way.
I know you have strong feelings for him and it’s breaking your heart that he’s not in your life right now…
…but you need to keep your emotions in check if you want your ex to be open to the idea of being with you again.
And when your ex thinks about you, he should associate it with pleasant thoughts.
He needs to see you as that cool, fun-loving girl he first met – and not a needy ex who’s pressuring him into getting back together.
When it comes to their ex, most guys are worried that she’s going to make a scene or drag him into some equally uncomfortable scenario.
So right now, try to detach yourself from the outcome and have as much fun with him as possible. And the first step to doing that is by learning how to relax into the moment and smile when you’re with him.
Flirting Tactic #4. Drop Some Subtle Reminders Of Your Shared Past
Do you remember a particularly memorable moment that you shared with your ex?
A great way to flirt is by casually bringing up a shared experience without making too much of a big deal out of it.
To better explain, here’s a good example – try saying something like this:
“Oh hey, by the way, remember that night at the lighthouse a few months ago, you know that place we went on our anniversary, that was fun right? I went there again a week ago with a friend and they’ve opened a sweet little cafe right beside it. They sell the best crepes.”
Mentioning that in passing will make your ex relive that memory without making things awkward.
All you need to do is plant that seed in his mind, and the thought will grow without him knowing it.
When it comes to making your ex obsess over you, flirting with your him is a definitely a good place to start.
But there’s more to it than that.
Once you’ve reopened the lines of communication and re-established rapport with your ex…
…you’ll need to gradually turn up the heat to reawaken those ROMANTIC feelings for you.
It’s not enough to start talking to him again. You see, once you’ve reached this point, it’s actually the most CRITICAL time to win him back.
At this point, he could either decide to give it another shot…
…or he might end up seeing you as a platonic buddy and put you in the dreaded Friend Zone FOREVER.
So you need to avoid the crucial mistakes that might push him away.
To REALLY seal the deal, you need to know how to permanently plant that desire in the back of his mind.
This is the only way to make him feel compelled to chase you down again, and ultimately to obsess over you.
Like I said earlier, I’ve got even MORE powerful methods that I haven’t covered here – but you can watch my free video to get them NOW: