By Bob Grant, L.P.C
Author of The Women Men Adore (And Never Want To Leave)
Most women believe that men care about how “hot” a woman is… and that’s it. Let me tell you how wrong that is and why. If you asked a dozen different men what they looked for you would probably get many different answers.
Some would talk about having a great body, and others might mention a dazzling smile. Yet when you look at the women men actually do fall in love with, you start to see something different.
Most women don’t realize that, regardless of how “pretty” she is, if she’s aggressive, selfish or demanding, then that’s a major turn off.
What makes a woman captivating are the qualities that magnify her appearance.
Here are 5 qualities that inspire a man to stay devoted:
Irresistible Quality #1 – Priceless:
Let me remind you of one trait that every man shares – men like expensive things. What’s more, the man that you’re interested in wants you to believe you are priceless. Some women mistakenly believe this means they are to act in a condescending and aloof manner.
That’s not what men consider appealing. Women who know they are valuable are above all happy with themselves. This acceptance of themselves frees them from the dreaded belief that, “If I were only better (prettier, skinny, etc.), a man would love me.” Developing this new belief about yourself is simply a matter of learning a new habit.
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Irresistible Quality #2 – What you do is more important than what you feel.
While being in touch with your feelings is valuable, often women fall into the trap that how they feel is a reflection of who they are. What really stands out to a man is how a woman acts when she’s having a bad day.
How does she react when she’s angry?
What does she do when her man takes her for granted?
Does she ask for help when she needs it or does she simply assume he can read her mind?
Here’s what it means. What you actually do is a better indicator of who you are instead of how you feel. Feelings tend to fluctuate depending on your circumstances. Yet how you act (respond) is more about the choice you make, often in spite of your feelings.
For example, would you want to be involved with a man who keeps his word when he’s in a good mood, but forgets his promises when he’s overwhelmed? Men notice this lack of consistency as well.
Irresistible Quality #3 – Truthful
If there’s one trait that men value more than anything else in a woman, it’s honesty. That may seem awfully boring, but it’s a quality that men prize in a woman.
From a guy’s perspective, once a man gives a woman his heart, she is going to have a tremendous amount of power over him. This is especially true if he marries her.
If he’s going to give her that sort of power, he has to be able to trust her.
Trust is his most valuable gift he can give her (at least in his mind). If she is dishonest, it makes him question whether he can confide in and depend on her.
Telling the truth may sometimes be uncomfortable and at other times may be hard, but showing your man that he can trust you to be honest with him at all times will do wonders for your relationship.
Irresistible Quality #4 – Patient with Him
We’ve all heard the proverb, “Patience is a virtue.” Patience is key to a lasting relationship. But what exactly does it mean to be patient, anyway?
Sometimes, women think of patience in terms of simply ignoring bad behavior. That’s actually called being Codependent. A better way of describing patience is to simply think before you speak or act.
For example, if you and your boyfriend get into a disagreement, stop and ask yourself this question: “Is this worth fighting about?” If it is, then bring it to his attention immediately; if it’s not, be patient with him, hold your tongue, and move on. The little things are worth letting go.
There are definite occasions when you should not tolerate his behavior. If he’s unfaithful, abusive, or constantly rude or disrespectful, don’t tolerate it from him. This isn’t the time to be patient and accept it. If it is worth confronting him about, tell him that you want him to change what he’s doing.
Give specific examples. If he doesn’t change and the issue is vitally important to you, consider whether or not you want to stay in a relationship with a man like this.
Patience is wonderful when it comes to small things. Let them fly. Yet when it comes to big, harmful things like infidelity, tolerance does much more harm than good. When you use this quality, he’ll cherish you deeply.
Irresistible Quality #5 – Gracious when he messes up
Men can’t resist a woman who is truly kindhearted. This means so much more than simply being nice to a man. Men measure your graciousness quota based on how you act when he’s done something wrong and he’s genuinely sorry.
For example, say he missed an important event. He forgot it and is genuinely sorry. Do you forgive him and move on or do you hold a grudge and purposefully “miss” an event that is important to him?
When he’s feeling vulnerable, are you condescending to him or are you gracious? It is possible to accept his apology while conveying how his action hurt you while still forgiving him and moving on. If he’s feeling vulnerable and you don’t take advantage of it, he’ll be incredibly attracted to you. Men want a woman who is genuinely kind and will stick by his side through thin and thick, good and bad. If you can be that woman for him, he’ll never let you go.
How To Use These Qualities To Mesmerize A Man
Each of the qualities seems fairly simple, but what makes them intoxicating is when they are combined in the right mixture, like a magic potion
In fact, once you combine them correctly, you’ll start glowing, without even trying. This is what happened to one woman named Anna the day she stepped into the elevator and pushed the button to her floor.
As the elevator began its ascent, a man who had been talking on his cellphone stopped and glanced at her, then looked away. She felt a nervous twinge; and then a moment later he said, “I’m sorry, but I don’t normally do this. I don’t know if I’ll ever see you again, so I wanted to ask you if I could call you sometime.”
She tried to dismiss her experience as something random until 2 weeks later it happened to her again at a friend’s dinner party. Two men, one on each side, kept begging for her phone number and wanting to know when they could see her again.
What happened to Anna is what I call “The Campfire Effect.” This is when you effortlessly glow and charm a man without even trying.
The truth is, I’m sharing this with you not simply for your sake, but because the man who wants to spend the rest of his life with you is desperate to feel “The Campfire Effect” from you.
Bob Grant, P.L.C.