By Randy Skilton
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6 Tell-Tale Signs Your Starting To Get Serious Feelings For Him
Falling in love is one of the best feelings in the world, and it’s not called falling in love for nothing…
Meeting a new guy and developing feelings for him is messy and confusing. It is not apparent to many women that they are falling in love.
Could I be in love with him?
One of the reasons why you might not know you are in love is that you could be resisting; you do not believe that you could fall in love with this guy because of a particular reason.
Or you really do not want to fall in love with the man because he does not fit the typical criteria for what you are looking for in a partner.
Other women could be in denial because of past experiences. They have been hurt, and they are unconsciously afraid that it could happen again.
Fortunately, according to Science, your body knows when you are falling in love, and it tries to communicate with you through various strange signs.
Helen Fisher, an anthropologist, indicates that an ‘in love brain’ looks very different from other brains.
The ‘brain in love’ is a combination of multiple systems working together and, consequently, sending numerous tell-tale signs.
1. You can imagine a future with him
Can you see yourself marrying him, building a life with him and growing old together? If the answer is yes, then you are definitely falling in love with him.
Experts indicate that if you are not in love with a guy, the mere thought of spending more time with him produces anxiety and stress.
You can’t really see past a few dates, no matter how much you try to force it.
What type of emotions does a commitment to this guy invoke in you?
Commitment scares a lot of people. If the thought of being with a guy forever makes you feel excited, then you are falling in love with him.
When you are in love, you will feel a unique sense of joy and hope and look forward to the future, no matter what it may bring.
2. Spending time with him makes you happy.
You enjoy his company, and you are always in the present moment with him. After all, why would you be anywhere else?
Does a bad day get a whole lot better the minute you see him? Only someone that you are in love with can transform your day from drab to fab in a matter of seconds.
The empty room test
If you had to sit with this guy in an empty room for hours, how would you feel? Would it be awkward?
Or would it be interesting; exciting even? That is how you know that you are falling in love. Being with each other is just enough and you do not need outside entertainment to occupy you.
3. He is high on the list of your priorities
When you find yourself easily putting his needs before yours, without any hesitation, the chances are that you are in love with him.
That is the nature of love: it is selfless.
You are always willing to go out of your way to make his life happier and more comfortable. And that is not enough.
You will branch out of your normal range of activities and indulge those of the guy: you will try new foods, watch new shows and attempt new activities, just to make him happy.
Science reveals that people who are in love have a powerful sense of empathy towards their beloved; they feel their pain, and they are willing to sacrifice anything to make their significant other happy.
As such, they reorder their priorities to align them with those of their beloved.
4. He is always on your mind
If he is the last thing on your mind before you sleep and the first thing on your mind when you wake up, there is a reason for that.
If you love a guy, you will feel like you cannot get him out of your mind. This is because your brain releases phenylethylamine, famously known as the ‘love drug.’
Phenylethylamine induces the feelings of infatuation with the guy. Scientists say that another reason for this intrusive behavior is a decrease in serotonin, which happens when people are falling in love and is associated with the obsessive-compulsive disorder.
Did you know that people who are in love spend 85% of their waking hours thinking about their beloved?
5. You love everything about him
Do you love all the guy’s imperfections? It is easy to tell that you are falling in love when you stop requiring him to be perfect and accept everything about him.
The flaws become those little ‘quirks’ that you grow to love, and you acknowledge them as the qualities that make him unique.
A study by the University of Groningen in the Netherlands found that feelings of love override feelings of being grossed out.
Science reveals that people who are genuinely in love focus on the positive qualities of their beloved while overlooking the negative traits. Increased levels of central dopamine make people who are in love think that their beloved is unique.
6. You are scared
Of losing him; of keeping him; you wonder whether you are really ready for all this. You keep wondering whether it is true love.
You wonder how you let this happen.
You are scared, and yet deep down, you know you are going for it anyway.
Although love is associated with warm feelings, it can also be a massive source of stress. Being in love induces the release of the stress hormone cortisol which comes with pressure.
However, it might also be normal jittery. The stress might be a typical response to the stress of repeated interaction with someone whose impression matters deeply to you.
Scientists indicate that falling in love is a form of addiction. Just like drug addicts; people who are in love bounce between euphoria and exhilaration, and anxiety, panic, and despair when the relationship suffers even the tiniest setback.
Did you know, when you are in love:
➢ You feel less pain, physically and emotionally
Researchers from Stanford University found that love can feel like the ultimate painkiller that leaves the brain unable to register pain. Looking at a picture of a beloved reduces the pain by about 40% and eases severe pain by 10 – 15%.
➢ You do not feel hungry
Researchers indicate that one of the initial symptoms in the first stages of falling in love is the loss of appetite. This is because your endorphins surge when you are falling in love. As a result, your brain produces more serotonin, and you are left feeling little need for food. Few diets are as effective as falling in love!
➢ You will glow
When you are falling in love, you will look younger, more refreshed and full of life. Love increases blood flow to the skin, and when nutrients and oxygen start flowing, you will look younger.
➢ You feel extremely energetic
The scientists use the word; Hypomania’ which means intense energy. Hypomania is associated with the initial stages of falling in love
➢ You neglect housework
Women in love tend to ignore household chores more than usual. Scientists say that people who are falling in love slip into their more primitive instincts and can also feel euphoric. Their thoughts and actions are all geared towards enjoying the new romantic interest.
Falling in love is an intense period, but it is crucial to decipher your feelings quickly so that you can move on to other equally important things.
Just because you are falling in love with a man does not necessarily mean that you should pursue a relationship with him.
There are other things you need to consider as well in order to build a healthy long lasting relationship.
● Is the guy also falling in love with you?
● Is he someone who will support you?
● Does he understand and respect you?
● Is he compassionate with you?
● Does this man share your values and priorities?
Do not fall in love blindly. Putting effort and time during this initial period will pay off, and your attraction will transition into a beautiful long-term relationship.
Randy Skilton is here to help women in their relationships with men. It isn’t easy, but he believes that with some education on men and why they do what they do, any woman can attract her dream guy.
Randy started the site AttractYourDreamGuy.com to help spread this message. If he’s not helping women with relationships, you can usually find him in the garden.