Have you ever watched a playground of children playing?  It’s a familiar scene: the boys are running around, shrieking with laughter and shouting, while the girls are sitting quietly in a group discussing the complex social rules of their new game.

Boys and girls play differently, and they carry those communication differences into adulthood.

Why are some men ready to commit immediately … while other remain “playboy bachelors” forever?

How can you tell if the man you’re with is ever going to commit?

Is there any way to “make” a man commit?

Commitment is a HUGE question that touches every one of us in some way.  So today I’m going to share the four things that every man needs before he can (or will) commit to you.

Whether you’re thirty-plus or reaching retirement, ALL of us consider what the impact of aging will be on our love life. It’s impossible to avoid.

We’re bombarded with images of lonely spinsters and unattractive maiden aunts. We worry about losing our looks and being passed over by men looking for younger models. We worry about getting set in our ways and dying alone.

So what’s the TRUTH about aging?

Love really hurts sometimes.

In fact, I’m willing to bet that there’s not a single woman out there who hasn’t been hurt by love.

So how do we deal with it? How do we deal with all those times we’ve been hurt by love?

Do we forget about it? Do we go to therapy for it? Or do we continue to bring our pain into each and every new relationship?

We start out getting hurt by love at a very young age.

When, as teenagers, we start having feelings for boys and hiding our crushes with blushing smiles, we’re acutely sensitive as to whether the boys we like feel the same way back.

In today’s no-rules dating game, where there is little social pressure to abstain from sex before marriage, cohabitation has become the name of the game.

The U.S. Census estimates that 70% of couples live together before marrying, and many are choosing cohabitation as an alternative to marriage. And why not? Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have done it.

Besides, advocates say, commitment is a personal choice that doesn’t need the state’s sanction to be any more valid.

Men are funny creatures. Many of them believe – without any sense of irony – that committing to a girl is like a death sentence, because a girl who’s comfortable in her relationship will:

* Stop wearing sexy underwear,
* Gain weight,
* Start nagging, and
* Turn into his mother.

Ridiculous, I know.

Often I receive emails from readers asking me questions about their man, or about how to find great men, and they want to know how to tell if a man is right for them.

Well, obviously every man is different, but most GREAT men, possess most of these qualities (they are listed in no particular order)…

1. A great man will appreciate you for what you have to offer and NOT what you don’t
Great men highly value authenticity and honesty, which is why if you’re a woman who is able to be comfortable with who you are, he’s going to find you much more sexier than someone who’s pretending to be someone she’s not.

I recently ran a survey of about 2000 men and one of the questions I asked was “what do you secretly want from the woman you love?”

I used the responses from that to compile this list of the top 6 things that men secretly want and here they are in reverse order…

6. To have quiet time

Recently we recorded an exclusive interview with dating guru Michael Fiore (best selling author, you may have seen him on Rachel Ray)

In this tell-all interview, Mike shares a number of valuable secrets for women, including:

- The answer to how love actually works for men (at 2 mins 15 sec)
- How to rebuild the love in a relationship (at 5 mins 50 sec)
- The fatal mistake women make that pushes men away (at 11 mins 10 sec)
- The three principles women must use for men to take them seriously (at 14 mins 26 sec)