How to Meet Men

Those who feel that they lack expertise on how to meet men may feel that quality guys are a dying breed.

It’s easy for any woman who’s down on her luck to believe that it’s hard to find a decent guy in her town.

In my experience, I’ve come to realize a simple truth about how to meet men: it’s not that there aren’t enough men to go around; it’s about looking in the right places!

Let me put it another way.  Knowing how to meet men starts with learning how to put yourself in places and situations that are conducive to this goal.

For instance, you could start off by simply letting your friends know that you’re looking!  Taking this first step will help get your foot in the door without giving the impression that you’re desperate.

Don’t feel afraid or ashamed to ask for your friends’ help on this matter.  Besides, all you’re really asking for is an opportunity to be introduced to promising candidates.

Some friends like to play matchmaker, but I advise you to avoid being set up on a blind date.  Meeting a guy under such circumstances is awkward because there’s an inherent pressure to become romantic right away.

If your date with your mystery guy doesn’t end on this note, you’ll have this cloud of disappointment hanging over you – not a good feeling!

So, just have your gal pals bring a cute (and single!) friend along to one of your nights out.  Meeting a man under these relaxed circumstances makes it easier for both of you to be yourselves.

Paradoxically, there’s a bigger chance for the sparks to grow if you don’t feel the need for anything to develop immediately.

There’s also the hidden advantage of being built up by your friends.  This way, you don’t have to risk looking like a show-off since your gang has already given you the benefit of social proof!

However, you can’t rely on their endorsement alone – keeping up a great chat, flirting and giving signs of interest (i.e. smiling, laughing at his jokes, touching his hand a few times) are all necessary to really seal the deal.

It’s helpful to simply focus on the moment and block any distracting thoughts about the outcome.

Don’t think about what his opinion of you might be or how you look from his point of view.  Instead, you’ll be more attractive by giving him your undivided attention and genuinely listening to what he has to say.

Furthermore, this setup allows you get a good idea of how he relates to other people and evaluate if he’s worth hanging out with in the future.  If doesn’t live up to the hype, then you’ve spared yourself the trouble of having to wrap up the night on an awkward note (which would happen if you were on an actual date!).

In case your hot new friend has potential, then you have the luxury of building rapport during the next few times your pals bring him along to future activities.  When you’ve got enough tension going on, you’ll have the leverage to ask him out on an actual date.

And it doesn’t even have to be the traditional romantic-dinner-with-candlelight either; a good trick is to casually tell him that you’re planning on going somewhere (such as an art exhibit, a book launch, picking up that new CD you ordered at the record bar, etc.) and he can come along if he isn’t doing anything that day.

This is a great way to imply enough interest without having to throw yourself at him!  This creates a fun, no-pressure situation where you can have some quality alone time with your guy.

Before you know it, the level of comfort will be more than enough for things to naturally heat up between you two!

That’s it for now, but make sure to check back for even more tips on how to jump-start your dating life!