Every average Joe out there is dying to know how to keep himself from being overcome with self-doubt, anxiety, and the overall fear of “theapproach”. Are you one of those frustrated chumps with their dating life stuck in a rut?

Does it feel like there’s an invisible barrier keeping you from being truly successful with women? Do you want to know once and for all how to become the cool kind of guy that women can’t wait to be with?

When it comes to starting conversations with others, whether it’s that hot chick that you want to get to know better (and get her number), or new person who works in the cubacle next to you in work…

…The big key is that you always bring equal or greater energy to the interaction.

This doesn’t mean you have to become Tony Robbins and be all happy dappy and hyper.

Guys have a bad rap when it comes to relationships. Women believe that not only do guys avoid getting into relationships in the first place, but that men are the ones who are most likely to end it.

But the facts show otherwise.

I get a lot of guys writing in with the same question over and over again. There’s a particular girl they like, and as much as they’re trying to follow the principles in my courses they just can’t seem to shake their feelings for this girl.

I’m brutal when it comes to cases of “oneitis.” There’s a reason it’s considered a disease, and that’s because it contaminates your entire life and makes you off-putting to women.

If going to bars or clubs feels like a stab in the dark for you or fills you with dread, maybe it’s time you discovered the benefits of how to meet women online. Thanks to modern technology, you can widen your search for potential soulmates without braving the singles scene and offering women to buy them a drink.

However, online dating can be confusing to guys who are new to this sort of thing. Fortunately, we’ve put together some helpful guidelines to meeting women online and making your way through this unfamiliar territory:

Statistically speaking, guys prefer dating women either their age or younger than them. However, there are those who are interested to meet older women for a number of good reasons.

For instance, they find it refreshing to date someone with a more mature, practical outlook on life. Joe, a 33 year-old investment banker from New Jersey says, “After going through a couple of rough breakups, I found that dating older women involved way less emotional drama than my previous relationships.”

He adds that “When I started dating older women in their late 40s and beyond, I opened myself to a whole other world. You’ve got potential partners who are established in their chosen careers, financially independent and know what they want out of life.”

When you think about the best way to meet women, you might consider the usual places. You have your choice of bars, clubs or any other places where women expect to be hit on.

Then you go through the clichéd exercise of walking up to a girl, making a witty comment, offer to buy her a drink and hope for the best. There are some guys who do well in this kind of setting, but this doesn’t work out for other men.

Besides, there’s a downside to this approach. For one thing, you’re weighing yourselves down (i.e. you and the girl you’re hitting on) with expectations even before you’ve even started the conversation.

Every guy out there struggles with something different. Maybe it’s communication; maybe it’s inner game, maybe it’s best places to meet women.

Whatever it is, there’s going to be a guru who totally gets it, because he went through the same struggle. YOUR job is to find your stumbling block and absorb every ounce of knowledge you can to overcome it.

That’s why I like to share some of the letters I get from readers. I prefer to protect their anonymity, but if they are experiencing an issue that I think others can really learn from, I’m all for sharing my advice in the hope that it will help others in a similar predicament.